Recorded: March 3, 2024

• – Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt. I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show we use our combined 35 years of BDSM experience and my 20 years working in the psychology field to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. Text your questions and comments to 865-268-4005 or visit the Krypt at https://kuldrinskrypt.com.  

• – In this episode, Mayfair and I are talking about the somewhat controversial topic of not joining or being involved with your local BDSM scene.
• – Rules to Love By: (https://inclusionwoodworks.com)

• • 1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
  • 2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
  • 3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young

• – “BDSM and the Bible..Plus Race Play-S05E24”

• • (ESV=English Standard Version)
  • Genesis 2:24 (ESV) – Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
  • 1 Peter 5:3 (ESV) – Not domineering over those in your charge, but being examples to the flock.
  • 1 Corinthians 7:5 (ESV) – Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
  • Hebrews 13:4 (ESV) – Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
  • Matthew 20:28 (ESV) “even as the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”
  • 1 Corinthians 7:1-40 (ESV): Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
  • Muhammad Ali – “Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth.”

Race Play (https://www.kinkly.com/definition/10252/race-play)

• Defined: play involving role play with racial imagery. It usually involves interracial partners, although it may be enjoyed by people of any race. It is a type of advanced psychological play.

• Why People Are Into Race Play
  • Race play can be enjoyable for a myriad of different reasons. However, it is important to note that this kind of role-playing is taboo, often even in BDSM circles. Practitioners say it’s less acceptable within the community than some other types of role play that sit outside social norms, such as age play and rape play. Even so, some people get sexual gratification from play that pushes these particular boundaries.

“Some people are drawn to race play because it’s a form of power exchange that taps into societal structures and historical contexts, providing a unique thrill or arousal,” says Kat Winnick, a BIPOC certified sex educator with more than 10 years’ experience as a dominatrix in a New York dungeon. “It’s like ordering an extra spicy dish at your favorite restaurant – not everyone can handle the heat, but for those who can, they find it quite invigorating!”

Some people may use race play to process difficult concepts and trauma. Unfortunately, internalized racism may also drive some people’s participation. A feeling that certain races are inferior and deserve to be dominated may inspire someone’s interest in race play.

• Race Play Scenes/Dynamics
  • Race play scenes and dynamics are limited only by the imagination. However, they usually involve someone role-playing as a dominant white character while their submissive partner takes the role of a submissive minority. In this dynamic, it can mean people of color role-playing as slaves or people of Jewish heritage role-playing as prisoners. However, race play can also involve white people stepping outside their usual roles, as with any kind of role-play, and assuming the identity of a racial minority. A white person or someone playing that role may also prefer a racial minority dominating them.
• Race Play Controversy
  • Race is a controversial topic in BDSM circles, as the use of racialized imagery in kink can be seen as a way of eroticizing racism and subjugation. “It involves themes that have real-world implications and a history of oppression,” Winnick explained. “Imagine playing Monopoly with real money; suddenly every move becomes more significant and potentially damaging.”

As much of the BDSM community is white, race play is largely consumed by white people. This gets complicated as some people feel white people are disrespecting or fetishizing partners of other races. Winnick disagrees, noting that “consensual race play is like a well-choreographed dance between two partners who’ve agreed on the steps, while fetishization of race is more akin to someone obsessively replaying their favorite song without considering the feelings or comfort of others in the room.”

White people who assume the roles of racial minorities during race play may also be accused of cultural appropriation. The BIPOC community also tends to take issue with racial minorities “using” the trauma of their ancestors for sexual gratification or simply “selling out” to please a white partner.

On the other side of the debate, some kinksters argue that race play is just another way of playing with taboos and pushing boundaries. They argue that what consenting adults enjoy in private shouldn’t be anyone else’s concern.

They also suggest that playing out stereotypes can be a way to counter racist narratives. They remind critics that race play is a consensual roleplaying activity where the submissive always has the power to agree to the scene, set limits and stop at any time they feel uncomfortable. This is a power that was never afforded to racial minorities dominated by white people in the past. When viewed through this lens, race play could be perceived as a way for racial minorities to reclaim power their ancestors didn’t have.

Supporters of race play also add that scenes featuring the dominance of white figures and the submission of racial minorities are not uncommon in popular media. While some faced criticism in some sectors, they were celebrated in others. For example, some critics condemned the 2014 film “12 Years a Slave” for failing to show black resistance to slavery. However, it also received a slew of honors, including Academy Awards, African-American Film Critics Association Awards, and British Academy Film Awards. If mainstream media can play out racial power dynamics, some supporters of race play argue, then people who enjoy race play and adult filmmakers seeking to satisfy them should be able to do the same.

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