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Five Questions to ask a potential Dom/sub or Play Partner-S03E21

Recorded: 11/22/2020 /  Published: //2020
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  • In this episode of The Krypt Mayfair, the chatroom, and I are going to offer some advice on finding a new Dom, sub, or play partner.
      1. 1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
      2. 2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
      3. 3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young
  • – Five Questions to ask a potential Dom/sub or Play Partner-S03E21
  • – Before knowing what you want in someone else you have to know yourself.
      1. – What are the primary characteristics of my Dom/sub/play side?
        1. – Respectfulness
        2. – Playful
        3. – Obedient
        4. – Friendly
        5. – Demanding
        6. – Nurturing
        7. – Sadistic
        8. – Exhibition
  • – What characteristics do I want in a Dom/sub/play partner?
        1. – Respect
        2. – Obedience
        3. – Thoughtfulness
        4. – Communication
        5. – Enjoys erotic humiliation/degradation
        6. – Masochist
        7. – Alpha sub
        8. – Loyalty
        9. – Community service
  • – What are characteristics in others that turn you off?
        1. – Lack of communication
        2. – Brats
        3. – Doormat subs
        4. – Arrogance
  • – Now that you have a little better understanding of yourself it’s time to find out a little more about that potential Dom/sub/play partner.
    1. 1: What kinds of scenes turn you on?
    2. 2: What characteristics do you find sexy in a Dom/sub/play partner?
    3. 3: What experience do you have in power exchange?
    4. 4: What gets you off about being submissive/Dominant/play partner?
    5. 5: What are things that you haven’t tried but would like to?

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