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Mayfair85 on Entering the BDSM Lifestyle-S02E13

Recorded: 3/26/2019 / Published: 4/1/2019

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  1. Call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at https://kudrinskrypt.com
  2. On this episode of the Krypt we are hitting the rules to love by, I have to share with you my new collar maker https://www.daycollars.com, and then we are talking to My sub, Mayfair about her experience in entering the scene.
  3. [0:50] Rules to Love by:
      1. Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
      2. KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
      3. “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young
  4. [1:14] https://www.daycollars.com
    1. Day Collars is a place for personalized handmade collars, leashes, cuffs and belts. They cater to everyone, from sporty and informal daily fashion to the leather community. With DayCollars.com you can make your own personalized style of collars, leashes, belts, cuffs and other leather products. They will guide you through the styling of your accessory and the whole thing concerning your order is personalized to your needs and specifications. For inspiration and ideas on your personal style or to simply admire their completed works, visit their gallery page.
  5. [2:12] What caused you to finally venture out to your first munch?
  6. [4:05] What were her initial thoughts going into the first needle play with you? And also how you approached the negotiation with it.
  7. [5:19] What finally made her take that big step to venture to events? And how did she handle the first time, as she (going off her profile) likes to stay on the outskirts of groups?
  8. [8:00] What was she most excited to try, as well as what was she most scared to try, of the things she has tried so far?
  9. [10:30] What was her biggest lifestyle fear/worry/concern, and in her mind, have you helped alleviate or lessen the fear/worry/concern, even on a small level?
  10. [14:21] (From LillyChaos) You’ve mentioned two things as we’ve been talking. One was that she doesn’t like to be touched and the other was that she’s overly apologetic.
    1. I’d be interested to know how she deals with (well dealt with before you) all the huggy touchy people without it being awkward. When people ask for a hug and I say no, I feel guilty and end up doing it even though it makes me extremely uncomfortable.
    2. [16:30] The other question id like to know the answer to is how to break the habit of apologizing and feeling the need to.
  11. [19:14] (Sneaking one last one in,  if it doesn’t get covered, that’s fine too ~Alexanderia) How has joining Kuldrin and his wife (in her interview she referred to you as “our sub”) changed your thoughts and views on relationships?
  12. [21:56] how she deals with any conflict or hurt feelings or being upset that may occur. Everyone messes up, but (besides communication, like how?) it would be nice to know how it’s dealt with without crossing lines.
  13. [35:15] Also, has she ever had difficulty saying no and if she did, how did she overcome that?
  14. https://kuldrinskrypt.com/213
[:] A final note or two:
  1. I’d like to thank our Pro Producer, who wishes to remain anonymous. Executive Producers Jeremiah, Jess, Feline_Rouge, ArcaneD.G.R. & violetaurelia, babylove2269, and Queen Sage. Our Sr. Producers Matt, xEmeraldxWolfx, and SortOutTheKinks. Our Producers Kainsin, Roxiebear, Sihlus, ThatPlace: Oklahoma City, JayKay, olive_eyes, and Seine (Zine). And our Jr. Producers K-2SO, BuffaloDom84, LxSoumis, Hayley, and Alexandria. If you would like to become one of our show producers go to our website, https://kuldrinskrypt.com/support to get that information.
  2. Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts for their donation of their beautiful 25 page soft and hardbound M/s and D/s contracts.. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.
  3. And finally, I’d like to thank http://whippingstripes.com my personal maker of leather and paracord impact toys.
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