Solo BDSM Play-S03E28

By Master KuldrinLive, Podcast, Show Notes
Recorded: 1/17/2020 /  Published: 9/01/2021
  • – Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt. I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show I use my 25 years of BDSM experience and 20 years working in the psychology field to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at https://kuldrinskrypt.com. 
  • – In this episode of The Krypt Mayfair, the chatroom, and I, are going to talk about solo BDSM play; a topic that was sparked by a fet message I received from MorIsrael. 
  1. 1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
  2. 2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
  3. 3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young
  • –  “Solo BDSM Play-S03E28”
    1. – There are a lot of reasons someone would want to, need to, or prefer to play alone. Let’s break these areas down and see what kind of advice we and the chatroom can come up with to help people out.
      1. – Some people just want to play alone.
      2. – Some people just aren’t ready to come out of their kink closet.
      3. – The time it takes to find a partner these days can be quite time-consuming and not everyone has the availability to find someone.
      4. – They haven’t found someone that shares their kink.
      5. – Proximity to others that share their kinks and fetishes.
      6. – Besides being single or living in an area where a social kink community is nonexistent, there are a lot of people with social anxiety, depression, covid fears, and health issues that prevent them from meeting others.
      7. – Unfortunately, trauma-based distrust is another reason an alarming number of people won’t or can’t play with others.
      8. Finally, maybe their kink doesn’t require another person.
    2. – So now that we have the why let’s get into the how on few areas of play. Trigger warning: We will be discussing self-harming behaviors and briefly talking about the fine line between healthy, “healthy-ish”, and unhealthy behaviors. 
      1. – Rope: Self-tying 
      2. – Impact: Self-flagellation 
      3. – Wax: It can still be soothing and relaxing.
      4. – Humiliation and degradation: Mirrors and markers, making yourself perform tasks that fulfill this need. Eat from the floor or out of a dog bowl, …
      5. – Fire: This one is an easy one to play with alone but a hard one to do it safely since a spotter is a requirement for safe fire play. However, some people have found that going outside the BDSM community for other firebugs is a great way to have this need fulfilled. Burners.
      6. Knife: This one can be tricky for those that have a history of self-harming behavior. 
      7. – Primal: While you can’t really go on a primal hunt for yourself and be both predator and prey, it is possible to have a pretty satisfying primal experience alone because it is a state of mind. I have witnessed some pretty amazing solo scenes both in realistic porn and in dungeons of people breaking out their favorite toys and getting into a primal headspace clawing, scratching, and biting themselves while growling and masturbating with anything from their hands or basic toys to fantasy custom toys. One person particular that comes to mind hit a deep primal headspace, started howling, proceeded to rearrange the room by knocking things over in an animalistic way until she found something that appealed to her and she humped it to completion.
      8. Self/autoerotic asphyliation
        1. NEVER EVER DO THIS!!! IT IS HOW PEOPLE DIE!!!
    3. – Healthy, healthy-ish, and unhealthy behaviors.
      1. Healthy: there is no desire to experience pain to cope with stress.
      2. Healthy-ish: There is another person administering the pain to assist in the moment and with aftercare.
      3. Unhealthy: The sole focus is to cope with emotional pain through the process of self-harm.
    4. – Safety Plan:
      1. Safe calls before and after solo play.
      2. First aid kit close by that includes burn ointment and safety shears.
      3. Keep your phone where you can reach it and use it at all times.
      4. Figure out an aftercare plan BEFORE you play.
      5. Before you ever start have your personal and predetermined safety plan in place. 
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