Kink as a Competition-S04E05

Recorded: 08/29/2021 / Published: 03/20/2022
  • In this week’s episode of The Krypt, we are talking about competing in kink.
    1. Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
    2. KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
    3. “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young
  • “Kink as a Compition-S04E05” 
    1. Who competes?
      1. Doms with other Doms: Who has the most subs? Who has the “best” sub? Who is the best top? Who is the most extreme/heaviest top? Who has the most notoriety? 
      2. Subs with other subs: Who has the “best” dom? Who is the “best” sub? Who is the “best” bottom? Who is the most extreme bottom? Who knows all the slave positions and performs them the best? Who has the most notoriety?
    2. Why?
      1. People are naturally competitive.
      2. The lingo and talk of our community naturally encourage it.
      3. Frenzy.
      4. Ego.
    3. Is it healthy?
      1. Comparing ourselves to others
      2. Acting outside our comfort zone
      3. Acting outside our safety zone
    4. What happens when we compete in BSDM?
      1. Self-harm
      2. The harm of others
      3. Relationship “bouncing”
      4. Bad reputation
      5. Banishment
    5. How to recognize when you are competing in kink
      1. Basing the quality of a scene on: 
        1. The number or color of marks.
        2. The number of people watching.
        3. How “hard”, sensual, or playful your scene is.
      2. Looking around to see what others are doing while you are scening.
      3. Moments of jealousy when cruising FetLife 
    6. How to stop it.
      1. Recognize it within yourself
      2. Work on self-confidence
      3. Work on learning to enjoy yourself in the moment.
      4. Make the decision and follow through every time it hits. 
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