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Hot Wife Vs Cuckold Vs Voyeur-S03E13

Recorded: 9/27/2020 /  Published: 3/6/2021
    1. In this episode of The Krypt, Mayfair and I are tackling the differences between Hot Wife, Cuckold, and Voyeur kinks and fetishes.
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  • – Cuck vs hotwife(and now we can add vs voyeur) a Discord post by Atsila

To the best of my knowledge…. these are the basic answers…

Cuck tends to be a spouse and they watch or are “forced” to watch as their partner gets fucked or pleasured by another ….  the other is sometimes called a “bull”

The bull also degrades the cuck and the cuck loves it. 

Some cucks prefer to be tied up, while they are forced to watch. 

Sometimes the cuck likes to “clean up” the cum or being forced to clean it up

My hubby has a  hotwife kink its kinda like cuckold,

He loves knowing ive been fucked and pleasured by another man, he wants pics and video, especially if the other man cums on me or in me…., he wants to watch in person too but this is so new to him and we have been monogamous for 18yrs, we are moving slowly.  He always insists fucking me after I come home from being with Sir. He likes doing it after I have been “used” lol this is my hubby’s only kink… Lol he does NOT like degradation and doesn’t want to “taste” another man. So cuck is NOT his thing lol

Voyeur…

I am a Voyeur… 

Basically…. we like to watch… some prefer in secret some like to watch in the open, or in person…. some like to watch strangers, some watch people they know…. some have specific things they watch too… 

A cuck or someone with a hotwife kink can also be a voyeur, but not all voyeurs would enjoy watching their spouse getting pleasure from another.

I hope my own research has proved accurate, correct me if I’m wrong @Kuldrin

His kink was the only reason I was willing to proceed with opening our marriage… I was concerned it would be too “one-sided”… 

Sir has concerns about hubby watching us in person… Sir says “the reality can be very different from the fantasy”…. but it is something hubby wants, so we are all working towards it.

I like to watch,  but I don’t like to be watched at all lol 

It’s hard for me sometimes even with Sir… I tend to close my eyes when enjoying myself… if I open my eyes and notice Sir or hubby looking at me… I immediately shy away and blush and then start noticing the faces I’m making or my body language lol etc… 

This is also why I enjoy blindfolds…. it allows me to not get into that mindset because I can’t see if I’m being looked at.

  • – Hot Wife Vs Cuckold Vs Voyeur
      1. Definition: A hotwife is a married woman who has sexual relationships outside of her marriage, with the full knowledge and consent of her husband, who himself doesn’t have affairs.

The idea of hotwifing comes from the concept of a husband showing off and sharing his “hot wife.” The non-monogamous arrangement is related to a cuckolding fetish, and many (but not all) husbands in such a relationship refer to themselves as cuckolds or hot-wifers.

Typically, the couple gains sexual arousal from the arrangement due to voyeurism, the thrill of doing something taboo, or an infidelity and/or jealousy fetish.

Hotwifing isn’t exactly swinging because only one partner is having extramarital sex. One of the most important aspects though is that both partners are open and trusting with each other. It only works if both partners are mutually onboard; the hotwifing arrangement often falls apart when one partner becomes uncomfortable with non-monogamy or when one partner feels pressured against their will to participate.

In some cases, there really isn’t any extramarital sex taking place in hotwifing. For some, it’s mainly a foreplay exercise to talk through a hypothetical fantasy of infidelity.

  • – Cuckold
      1. Definition: A man who enjoys the humiliation, degradation, and/or voyeuristic experience of watching or knowing their partner has sex with someone else.
      2. Depending on the couple’s arrangement, the cuck could be made to perform oral and/or analingus on the bull (the male brought in to have sex with the wife), be locked in chastity and unable to release, perform cleanup duties that could include creampie eating, snowballing, licking the bulls seamen off the wife’s body, or taking the bulls load directly from the source. 
      3. Fun Fact: The term cuck has been used to belittle the husband of an unfaithful wife since the 1200s. The word cuckold derives from a French word for the cuckoo bird. Just as the female cuckoo lays eggs in other birds’ nests, a cuckold’s wife sleeps in another man’s bed.
  • – Voyeur
      1. Definition: A person who enjoys watching others, usually in a sexual context, without engaging with them.
      2. There is no degradation or humiliation associated with this kink. Some voyeurs get off from watching only specific people and or a specific scenario while others have a much broader scope of interests.
  • So what’s the difference between them?
    1. Intent. While on the outside these three kinks could look exactly the same to the unknowing, they are extremely different in practice. Yes, they could all have aspects of each other in a given encounter however, those that enjoy and participate in these three kinks have entirely different emotional needs and fantasies. 

To put it into roles: the cuck is generally submissive, the partner of the hotwife is generally dominant, and the voyeur could be of any role. 

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