S01E18-Play Partners Vs Lifestyle Partners

Kuldrin’s Krypt
S01E18-Play Partner Vs Lifestyle Partner
May 29th, 2017
    1. This is Kuldrin’s Krypt season 1 episode 18 for May 29th, 2017.
    2. Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show this is a place to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.com. Today it’s going to be all about play. We are going to define play partners and lifestyle partners, talk about the similarities and differences, and help you figure out what are the most important traits your partner or partners must have to provide you with what you are looking for. But before that happens…I’ve got to say hello to my lovely co-host.
  • Rules to Love by:
        1. Safe, sane, consensual, informed
        2. KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerence, Kindness, Integrity
        3. “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young
  • What is a Play Partner?
      1. A play partner is anyone you play, or scene with, whether in real life or online, that you are not in a relationship with. In the vanilla world these would be called “friends with benefits” or “one night stands”. You might meet these people online, at munches, at dungeon parties, or out in the general public, hit it off and scene together once and that be it or you could end up having scenes with them for years but it is never a relationship. It’s also important to remind people that even though I made the comparison to “friends with benefits” and “one night stands” of the vanilla world, these BDSM play partners might not be sexual partners…and if you’ve listened to previous episodes you will know that the majority of my personal BDSM experience is of a nonsexual nature.
  • What is a Lifestyle Partner?
      1. Just as any relationship a Lifestyle Partner can take several different forms but in all of those forms they involve a type of relationship with someone that is more than a Play Partners. Emotions and feelings are most often present at this level. Whether it be Dominant and submissive or Master and slave there is a strong bond developed after what should be a long negotiation period. In all of the following examples of different lifestyle partner examples it is important to remember that even though the people involved may only scene randomly there is a connection between them and there will more than likely be tasks that the sub or slave has to perform and a defined checkin time that could be set up several times a day to once a week or even less in a few cases I have seen.
        1. Collar on/off
        2. 24/7
        3. Nights & Weekends
        4. Whenever they happen to get together.
  • How are they the same?
      1. Negotiation
      2. D/s or M/s setting
      3. Scening
      4. Aftercare
      5. Checkin
      6. Renegotiation
  • How are they different?
      1. When the scene ends the dominance and submission or topping and bottoming ends.
      2. You might never see a play partner again after the scene.
      3. The emotional attachment is greatly decreased or nonexistent with play partners.
      4. A number of other things.
  • How do we determine what I need in a partner of any type?
    1. One of the best ways is to complete a list of limits and interest. Which is why we have one on our site at kuldrinskrypt.com
    2. The other way is by experiencing every you that can that is SSCI. However, it is also VERY important to remember that just because you like something in online play or in real life with someone does not mean that you will like it with another person or under different circumstances.


  1. Next week on the Krypt we are diving off the cliff and going deep into Master/slave dynamics. In the meantime, visit Kuldrinskrypt.com read the show notes for each and every episode, contact us, subscribe to the show, and find out how you can help us continue to bring you our years of experience, like The Accidental Trucker has from the beginning, by becoming a Patreon.com supporter.
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