Show Notes

S01E06-Dom/sub Space & Drop

Kuldrin’s Krypt: A BDSM 101 Podcast

December 30, 2016

Intro
  1. This is Kuldrin’s Krypt season 1 episode 6 for December 30th, 2016.
  2. (start theme pre-roll) Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show this is a place to dispell myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.com. On this epidode of Kuldrin’s Krypt we are going respond to a listener’s email, revisit the KNKI App and answer the following questions about Dom/sub space & Dom/sub drop. What is it? Is it real? And is aftercare really that important?
  3. Rules to Love by and the KNKI App:
      1. Safe, sane, consensual, informed
      2. KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerence, Kindness, Integrity
      3. “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young
  4. Addressing why I always reference other sites:
    1. Why reinvent the wheel
    2. Like churches in the south, there’s already one on every corner…I’m not so sure another is the answer. It should be about quality not quantity.
    3. I’m not trying to write a book or a complete guide BDSM at this point. I’m just giving general information and resources so those interested can have a place to start.
  5. Dom/sub Space:
    1. http://dominantguide.com/2312/dom-space-is-that-a-thing/
    2. http://dominantguide.com/1309/lets-explore-subspace/
    3. What causes it: the chemical endorphin release caused by the excitement and the psychology of the scene.
    4. What it feels like: Being high, completely cathartic, tunnel vision, time shifting, out of body, extreme bonding (imprinting)
    5. How to get there: First, you can’t focus on it-a watched pot never boils. 1: Ritual 2: Intimacy/trust 3: Confidence/flow/presence 4: Fexibility/relaxation
      1. Ted Talk about flow http://www.ted.com/talks/mihaly_csikszentmihalyi_on_flow
    6. The difference between Dompace and subspace: Domspace isn’t as obtainable due to the need of the Dom to stay in control and not violating any limits.
  6. Dom/sub Drop: A feeling of emptiness or depression after a scene ends and the chemicals and emotions are returning to normal.
    1. For subs it’s usually very quick to follow the scene. With Dom’s it can happen a week after scene. For me it’s usually three days.
  7. Aftercare: http://dominantguide.com/encyclopedia/aftercare/
    1. Defined: the negotiated time after a scene or play time where you recover and take care of each other’s needs. This is also a time to reconnect to reality and re-establish roles outside the scene. Some scenes are very intense emotionally and psychologically and the Dominant may need to help the submissive unwind and recover. Dominants also need aftercare; some like a massage or sex, but at the least you should both get re-hydrated and rest.

 

NEXT WEEK’S AGENDA
  1. Next week it’s a requested/suggested topic-”Rights Vs Privileges”.
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Outro: This has been Master Kuldrin for kuldrinskrypt.com: Unearth the Truth

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