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S01E26-Consensual Non Consent Revisted

Kuldrin’s Krypt: A BDSM 101 Podcast
S01E26-Consensual Non Consent Revisted
August 23, 2017
  1. This is Kuldrin’s Krypt season 1 episode 26
  2. Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show this is a place to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.com. On this episode of the Krypt we are going to revisit consensual non-consent. Before we begin I have to welcome my amazing co-host, Funsize.
  3. Before we get into the main topic I have a couple of things to bring up.
    1. First I’d like to thank our patreon supporter The Accidental Trucker…he’s been around since the beginning of the show. He gives a dollar a month. If the listeners are getting anything out of I’d be greatful if they would visit the site and click on the support us tab to give through patreon.
    2. Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.
  4. Rules to Love by:
      1. Safe, sane, consensual, informed
      2. KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerence, Kindness, Integrity
      3. “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young
  5. Before we begin I, as usual, like to start out with some definitions, however we’re going to be hitting a very sensitive topic today so the definitions we’re going to start with are going to SSC, RACK, and PRICK.  
    1. Safe, Sane, and Consensual:  Think of it as a checklist for anything you’re going to do within the lifestyle.  Is it safe, physically, mentally and emotionally?  Is it something you find to be sane?  Do you and the other participants knowingly consent to doing it?  
    2. RACK- Risk Aware Consensual Kink:  This means that all parties know that there are risks involved, the know what those risks are, and still are fully consenting in participating in this variety of kink.  
    3. PRICK- Personal Responsibility, Informed, Consensual Kink:  The idea behind this is that each individual participant should seek out the knowledge and assume personal responsibility for the activities (kink) they are consenting to.  
    4. Finally there are two primary definitions for consensual non-consent.
      1. Full tpe (or total power exchange) CNC in which a slave has given full permission to their Master or Mistress to essentially remove all boundaries and possible limits, fully entrusting their care and consent in their top.
      2. CNC as in rape play, or the consent given for a role-play of nonconsensual acts to be carried within a scene.  
  6. Okay so going back to CNC for the M/s dynamic this is a consent that has been given that essentially creates a carte blanche for that dynamic.  
    1. What it means?
      1. It means that the slave and Master have built such a level of trust that the slave feels it is no longer necessary to have negotiations or any will to practice willful consent.  Not all M/s relationships work like this.  
    2. What it takes?
      1. Years of trust building, open communication, and care.  And even then it may not be something every M/s relationship reaches.  
    3. Risks involved?
      1. The risks involved here is that without limits and boundaries you truly have to rely on your partner to be able to fully understand your needs, even when they sometimes push beyond that which you had once considered to hard limits.  
  7. CNC aka Rape Play
    1. Why it appeals to some?
      1. It has the appeal of fear, of making one ‘truly helpless,’ and there’s a certain taboo element to it too.
    2. How to approach this topic with a partner?
      1. Keep open honest communication, during a check-in or negotiation you may  choose to bring it up as a fantasy.  
    3. Risks involved?
      1. Mental and emotional damage, misunderstandings of consent could turn a fantasy into a real rape if not handled correctly, which can lead to long lasting consequences for all parties involved.  
  8. How to decide if either version of CNC is right for you?
    1. Meditate on it if you think you are interested in either one.  
    2. Be aware of the risks involved.
    3. Talk to your partner and if they feel this is not the right path for your relationship, be respectful.
    4. Be very mindful of your check-ins and aftercare.  
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