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S01E28-BDSM Basic Safety 101

Kuldrin’s Krypt: A BDSM 101 Podcast
S01E28-Basic Safety Introduction
September 9th, 2017
  1. This is Kuldrin’s Krypt season 1 episode 28
  2. Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show this is a place to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.com. On this episode of the Krypt we are going get into basic safety, but first, as usual I have to welcome my amazing co-host, Funsize.
  3. Before we get into the main topic I have a couple of things to bring up.
    1. First I’d like to thank our patreon supporter The Accidental Trucker…he’s been around since the beginning of the show. He gives a dollar a month. If the listeners are getting anything out of I’d be greatful if they would visit the site and click on the support us tab to give through patreon.
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  4. Rules to Love by:
      1. Safe, sane, consensual, informed
      2. KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerence, Kindness, Integrity
      3. “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young
  5. Basic safety defined:  The steps we should all take to ensure the wellbeing of our play partners, mentally, physically, and emotionally.  
    1. In review- limits, both hard and soft, and the use of safewords.  
      1. We’ve already gone over these a few times so just to review; hard limits are limits that are firmly set in place, and to be avoided being broken.  Soft limits are limits that are there but open to negotiations in the right situation.  And safewords are words or hand gestures used to signify where a bottom is physically, mentally, or emotionally during a scene.  
  6. Physical Safety
    1. Preparations for a scene
      1. Stretch, take a mild pain reliever, and drink a glass of water.
        1. In fact don’t be afraid to pause a scene for water, drink water as part of the scene, and drink water as part of your aftercare.  Hydration is everyone’s best friend.  
      2. Get into the proper headspace.  Clear away everything else so that you are mentally and emotionally able to get what you need from the experience.  
      3. Do not imbibe in drugs or alcohol previous to or during a scene.  This can inhibit decision making i.e. consent, and make it harder to tell when a person is at or has crossed their limits.  
    2. Knowing what you are doing.  
      1. It’s important to have as much knowledge as possible on what you are doing.  
        1. For most vets there is a code of teaching others, and we take this quite seriously with our newbies.  
      2. Understand any risks you are taking.  RACK, PRICK, and SSCI.  
      3. Know how to use any implements safely and correctly.  
        1. Understand the tools and implements which you are using.  Each implement in your tool box has certain risks involved, especially if used incorrectly, or before you’re ready.  Scalpels vs usual knife play is a prime example of this.  Scalpels are meant to peel flesh open whereas knives can be used to simply incite fear.  So it’s important to understand that scalpels are not for beginners by any means.   
        2. Candles and hot wax play can vary based on the type of wax used.  Paraffin is safest because of its low melting point but some dyes added can increase the temperature to a harmful level.  Also be aware of how far from the skin the candle is being held and avoid sensitive areas.  
        3. Handcuffs, should be the real cuffs used in law enforcement not the cheap kind sold at places like Spencer’s.  These have a point where they lick and stay put whereas the cheap kind can tighten from slight movements cutting off circulation.  Also make sure you have your key on hand and easily accessible.
        4. Avoid cheap toys in general as these typically break, are harder to care for, and cause more hurt than intended.  
        5. Be sure you are cleaning, conditioning, maintaining, and storing all implements correctly.  
      4. When participating in impact play know where and how to hit.  
      5. Watch for silent cues that something is wrong.  
    3. Practice safe bondage.  
      1. Use the two finger rule.
      2. Watch for circulation risks, and possible nerve damage. You can check circulation by pressing on fingernails and counting how long it takes for color to return.   
      3. Be mindful of the materials used.  Notes on silk ties and bondage tape.  
      4. Have quick releases available and safety shears on hand.  
      5. Never leave a bottom restrained and unattended.  
    4. Other safety practices and tips.
      1. Be mindful of your partners temperature.  
        1. Often an extreme and quick drop in temperature signifies that the body is nearing or going into shock.  Often what we do creates physical trauma, and this is a sign to back off, regulate temperature and bodily function, so a break or end of play is appropriate.
      2. Talk to your partner about previous sexual partners and activities.  And get proof that they are STD and STI free.  You should be doing this anyway whether it’s with a play partner (including nonsexual) or a vanilla partner.  
      3. Know what your partner’s health conditions and allergies are before play.  
  7. Take care of mental/emotional safety
    1. Keep an open line of communication (this is what ended my relationship with my last dominant.)  
    2. Don’t let your pride keep you from calling orange or red to address mental/emotional concerns
  8. Conclusion:  With these regular practices of basic safety and aftercare you can the best possible scenes with your partner.  
NEXT WEEK’S AGENDA
  1. Next on The Krypt we are going to discuss everything you need to know about your first play party. In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for shownotes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Facebook group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for giveaways. While you’re there click on support us to because a patreon supporter.
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