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Types of BDSM Dominants-S01E30

Kuldrin’s Krypt: A BDSM 101 Podcast
S01E30-Types of BDSM Dominants
October 13, 2017
  1. Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show this is a place to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.com. On this episode of the Krypt we are going to talk about types of Doms but first, I have to welcome my amazing co-host, Funsize.
  2. Before we get into the main topic I have a couple of things to bring up.
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  3. Rules to Love by:
      1. Safe, sane, consensual, informed
      2. KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerence, Kindness, Integrity
      3. “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young
  4. I like my definitions as always but I feel like we’re going to be defining and exploring several types of Doms and Dommes today.  How about we start off we what a dominant is and build from there, Funsize?  
    1. A dominant is someone who is inherently drawn to taking a role of power and control over others, through means of consent.  There’s actually a quote here from husdom.com that explains dominants excellently, “Being a Dominant has nothing in common with being domineering, in fact one is a contradiction of the other.  A respectful dominant does not rule arbitrary, based on choice or that of a personal whim.  A Dominant does not posses an unbridled supremacy or limitless power.” (https://husdom.com/dominant-gentleman/)
    2. Before we begin to delve into each type of Dom out there, I would like to point out that you can be more than one type, even within the span of a single scene, and that’s perfectly normal and okay.  
    3. Types of Dominants
      1. A top is a person who takes control during a scene.
        1. What makes a top different from the typical dominant?  A top may be in charge for a scene, while a dominant is someone who will take control outside of a scene as well.  
      2. Femdoms
        1. Let’s quickly break the stereotype that Femdoms or Dommes have to be ‘hard,’ in order to be in control.  It’s an absolute myth and one that often pressures women into pushing those who bottom to them too hard and can lead to serious injury.  
      3. Findom A dominant who asks their submissives to send them tributes in money or (usually) expensive gifts as part of their submission.  They also control other financial aspects of their subs’ lives.  
        1. More than once Kuldrin has suggested this for me, but uh… I’m not sure how I feel about it.  And there have been certain organizations that have openly taken a stand against findoms within our community.  I believe Vanilla Umbrella is one such organization.  We’ll be doing a further episode on financial domination later on, so let us know what your thoughts are on this matter.  
      4. Masters and Mistress refers to a dominant who has either mastered a craft or technique of BDSM, or has an active slave under their control
        1. We’ve talked more than once on and off mic about what makes a Master or Mistress, in this case we’re talking about those who have active submissives or slaves looking up to them and finding them worthy of such titles.  
      5. Gentlemen and Ladies are dominants who behave in chivalrous, and honorable ways towards their submissives and often any who surround them.  They showcase respect and good manners in all things.  
      6. Daddies and Mommies are dominants who choose to take on the role of a Daddy or Mommy, to a little submissive, or one who practices infantilism.  They typically focus on guiding, and caring for their submissives as a parent would.  
        1. Kuldrin, take it away, this is your area of expertise.  
      7. Owners are tops that view and treat their bottoms as property that they own
        1. This includes pets, slaves, furniture and those who wish to be only objects.  
      8. Sadists are technically those who gain sexual pleasure from causing pain to others.  This can be physical or mental.  
        1. Laughing Sadists are those who will be very Joker-esque in their play, often laughing or cackling as they perform impact play or hurt their consenting submissive in some other way.  
        2. Sensual Sadists will couple pain with sensuality and pleasure.
      9. Leathermen are dominants who practice the leather traditions of the Old Guard.  They have gone through the lessons and put in the work to earn their leathers and their positions within the community.  There is a still a connotation of homosexualtiy attached to this, but its not strictly true of all leathermen.  
      10. White Knight is a dominant type who longs to rescue damsels (or danes) in distress.  They enjoy playing the hero.  
      11. Mentors and Trainer are people who guide and teach others in one form or another in aspects of the lifestyle, formally.  
      12. A controlled dominant is a  dominant who is being controlled by another dominant or mentor, as an agreement in a scene to follow certain rules, or learn a new technique.  This is different from a junior top as it pertains only to a particular scene or lesson.  A controlled dominant may also be one who is following the rules laid down by a protector for a particular scene.  
      13. Junior Tops refers to a top or dominant who is learning under the supervised care and guidance of a mentoring dominant.  Kuldrin, I almost want to say that in a lot of ways both of our spouses could claim this title at the moment.  
      14. Feeders and Breeders are those who focuses on feeding their submissive with the goal of weight gain in mind.  These types of dominants usual look at things from the human animal/livestock perspective; ie cows and pigs, for feeding, breeding, and milking scenes.  
      15. Instas or Instant Dominants, subs, or “Masters” (only in quotes for this sense of things!) who have come across a snippet of (usually) fictional BDSM and decided they were instantly part of the lifestyle.  They typically know very little and will pretend they know how to handle much of the lifestyle.  I’m not a fan of these people at all, for obvious reasons.  
      16. To talk about primals I’ve got to actually read an excellently worded excerpt from dominantguide.com on this; the author says, “I want to start from or get to a place, where the feelings are primary- pure, raw, animal emotions, sensation and/or instinct. It could be fear, vulnerability, desire, grief, or any profound emotional state. I want to get to a place where words are gone- there may be grunting, growling, moaning, nonsense syllables crying or silence; maybe even all of above. “Primal” applies, as per Merriam Webster, in a way that’s raw, past rational thought, animalistic, instinctual. It’spure, core, raw emotion without a lot of the sensibility and good training that gets layered over that.”  Kuldrin I happen to know you very much enjoy being a primal dominant, do you have anything to add here? (http://dominantguide.com/1866/what-does-it-mean-to-be-primal/)
      17. A protector is someone who watches over the safety and well being of a submissive during scenes or at events. They can be a Dom outside of these events but sometimes they merely serve for these scenes only.  
      18. Riggers set up various rope bondage and suspension devices. They may only do this, or they may participate further in the lifestyle.  
      19. Service Top is a top who focuses on giving service or pleasure to the bottom in their care.
      20. Caring Dominants are those who focus on taking care of their submissives, not in the sense of servicing them, but in the sense of caring for them physically, mentally, and emotionally.  
      21. R.P.s or Role Play Dominants are those who take on various roles for a scene, and take control through those avenues.
        1. Examples of these might be boss, cop, or teacher role plays.  
      22. Performers are those who put on shows, jump into the often stereotypical role of a dominant, or just perform demonstrations using their submissives.  
NEXT WEEK’S AGENDA
  1. Next time on The Krypt we are going to dive into “frenzy” and discuss ways to prevent, what to do if you’re experiencing it, and how to help others through it. In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for shownotes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Fetlife group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for giveaways. While you’re there click on support us to because a patreon supporter.
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