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S01E31-Frenzy

Kuldrin’s Krypt: A BDSM 101 Podcast
S01E31-Frenzy
October 11, 2017
  1. This is Kuldrin’s Krypt season 1 episode 31
  2. Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show this is a place to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.com. On this episode of the Krypt we are going to talk about frenzy but first, I have to welcome my amazing co-host, Funsize.
  3. Before we get into the main topic I have a couple of things to bring up.
    1. First I’d like to thank our Executive Producer Jeremiah, Our Senior Producer Matt, Producer Missy Lynn and our Jr. Producers K-2SO, Irish Mt. Dragon and The Accidental Trucker. If you are getting anything out of I’d be greatful if they would visit the site and click on the support us tab to give through patreon. In order to maintain weekly episodes we are going to have to reach the goal of $30/month in listener support otherwise, due to costs, we will have to go to two episodes a month.
    2. Second, I’d like to talk BDSM contracts. http://bdsmcontracts.org coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.
  4. Rules to Love by:
      1. Safe, sane, consensual, informed
      2. KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerence, Kindness, Integrity
      3. “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young
  5. The definition of frenzy is a condition of being overly excited, wanting to try something new, or several things in very quick fashion; being in a frenzied state in regards to the lifestyle.  
  6. Three types of frenzy, or groups of people it affects.  
    1. Sub-frenzy
      1. The frenzy submissives feel, also thought of as the most common kind, this is definitely the most talked about form of frenzy.  
    2. Dom-frenzy
      1. Rarely acknowledged, this is the frenzy dominants feel and often makes them push themselves into new toys or techniques faster than they should.  
    3. Switch frenzy
      1. Switches feel frenzy from both perspectives and this often can lead to a temporary mindset of “use this on me, okay good, now my turn.”  It comes basically from both sides of the fence, but feeling it come from one end of things and not the other can lead to periods of self doubt and questioning of your position in the lifestyle.  
  7. Signs that you or someone you know may be experiencing frenzy:
    1. Adrenaline rush
    2. Feeling almost inebriated when approaching the lifestyle, or learning about something that is new to you.  Dizziness, surreality, etc.  
    3. Feeling like you need to make up for lost time.  Lots of those who are new to the lifestyle will feel like this, as though they have “wasted” time up until this point and are finally becoming who they were meant to be.  
    4. Feeling a surge of excitement and hope when encountering something new.
    5. Feeling unspecified needs, or an insatiable need for more.  
    6. Feeling the need to mirror what someone else wants or needs.  Again this something everyone can do, not just subs as many myths would have you believe.
    7. Other emotions you may encounter during periods of frenzy, particularly if you are a newbie are fear, guilt, self-disgust, anger, denial, anxiety, and confusion.
  8. The risks of frenzy:
    1. You mind find yourself saying, “wait did I really consent to that?”
    2. Going into a situation or play with a  lack of information.  
    3. Higher health risks, due to a lack of information, giving consent without understanding what you consented to, or pushing to otherwise questionable limits.
    4. Dangerous emotional and physical burn out, often from playing too much or too soon.  
    5. Skipping the proper vetting process, or ending up with a right now parnter instead of the right partner, simply because you want or feel like you need someone.  
    6. Emotional confusion like the I love you feelings forming inappropriately due to be in altered mental state.  
  9. How to avoid or slow down a frenzied state.
    1. Remember that there is so much to experience there is simply no way any of can learn it all within the span of any lifetime anyway so you might as well make the most of what you can do by slowing down and doing it correctly.  
    2. Reflect on each encounter so that you can be true to yourself, and learn at your pace.  
    3. Read and find trustworthy individuals in the lifestyle to help teach you.  Fetlife and google are both amazing resources for this.  Definitely hit up your local munches as well.  
    4. Don’t be afraid to come out and say I’m new, or I’m new to this.  Pride is essentially useless when it comes to the risks involved in this lifestyle.  
    5. Use this time to self moderate.  Again really look within to discover what you need, what you want, and just be very self-aware.  
    6. Saying no can be the best thing for you.  You don’t have to say yes to every experience you come across to be part of this community.  BDSM is lifestyle that’s extremely inclusive and understanding.  We all have our own kinks and our own limits so no is a big part of our vocabulary as a whole.  
    7. Count to ten and breathe deep.  Staying calm and clear headed as much as you can will reduce a lot of the risks  you’re going to encounter during this period.  
    8. Understand that you have limits and don’t need to test those parameters to their fullest.  You really have nothing to prove.  There’s going to be times when you will get to push those limits and fully explore them with a clear mind, so that really can wait until the frenzy has slowed down.  
    9. If you see someone going through frenzy, speak with them about it and set clear limits so that they may grow at a healthy rate.  It’s also okay to turn away someone experiencing frenzy if you are not comfortable playing with them at that time.  
    10. Talk to people in the community as a whole, we’ve all gone through frenzy at some point.  Even talking to someone else going through frenzy can help you understand your own experiences and give you a clearer perspective on things.  
    11. Don’t allow a frenzied state to negatively affect the rest of your life or relationships.  Communicate your needs and interests to any partners you have, and prioritize your time, energy, and resources realistically.
  10. Encountering frenzy when you’re not new:
    1. Understand that this is actually a fairly common occurrence.
    2. There is a plateau stage where we can level off for a while and then suddenly hit a growth spurt and enter frenzy all over again.  
    3. You may hit a later frenzy due to any number of changes both within the lifestyle, and without.  I.E.  job changes, big moves, a new toy, discovering a new style of play, or a new play partner.  
    4. Finally continue to learn all the time, this will help stave off later frenzy, though it will not prevent them as a whole.  
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