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can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.com. On this episode of the Krypt we’re diving into negotiations but first I have to say hello to my lovely co-host Funsize.
Before we get into the main topic I have a couple of things to bring up.
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3. Rules to Love by:
a. Safe, sane, consensual, informed
b. KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
c. “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young
Definition: Negotiations are the agreements, disagreements, and compromises made around the limits and interests between play partners or those engaging in D/s or M/s relationships.
What makes negotiations important?
They define what you are and are not consenting to.
As consent is so important negotiations are a vital part of communicating consent.
Types of negotiations:
1: Scenes only – these are negotiations used to the communicate the boundaries of what is and is not consented upon for a scenes. Whether they be single scenes or the individual scenes undertaken by play partners.
Example: We might agree to moderate spanking for a scene but no sex of any kind.
2: D/s and M/s relationships – more serious negotiations for on going relationships, negotiations are usually used to determine the particulars of contracts.
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Example: High protocol? Is it is something Funsize would consent to? That would be something that for instance we would have negotiate for the long run of any D/s or M/s relationship we entered into.
3: Renegotiations – A renegotiation is the process of checking in at a typically defined point of time (2 months, 4 months, etc,) to negotiate any changes necessary to the pre-existing dynamic.
Example: You might need to renegotiate a soft limit, that has become a hard limit or has moved into something you would like to incorporate into more regular use.
Next week on The Krypt we are going revisit consensual non-consent together. In the meantime go to kuldrinskrypt.com for shownotes, how to subscribe information, and the link to Facebook group so you can take part in the conversation and be eligible for the monthly giveaway. While you’re there click on support us for the Patreon link.